The things that make me different seemed so terrible when I was growing up, but now, I appreciate my individuality and the things that set me apart so much more.
I do not think I’m the best person in the world, nooo where near. I have flaws, but I do not focus on them. I do not bring myself down, and I have to make a conscious effort to stay positive. I focus on the good I have in me, even when it’s hard to see it, it’s important to know the good traits about yourself, and be confident about those.
I come from a family of artists. I never thought I’d be a girl covered in tattoos, but it’s become my way of expressing my art. It’s something, whether a memory, symbol, or set of words, that I can look at when I’m 80 and remind myself of who I am, where I come from, and what matters to me.
Change is not bad. Many people think that changing yourself is bad, when I see it as I have a new day every day to improve on the things about myself I do not like, and to learn things that I want, in order to become the person I see myself being. I always encourage people to become the best version of themselves and to pursue things that are good for them.
My sense of humor is something I’m proud of, as I get it from my dad, and he got it from my grandfather, who was a writer on “make them laugh” and made his way through life with a sense of humor. I also got it from my amazing group of childhood friends, we’re all REALLY WEIRD, but I love it. I love being silly, it’s fun and SO much better than being boring.
Having a big heart, in a tough world is hard. People take advantage of it without even noticing, I don’t blame them. When you’re willing to go out of your way to make people happy, they’re going to take it. The hard part is when you feel like it’s not being returned. You just have to realize and hope that it will be appreciated and make a positive difference for them in the end.
Love isn’t reserved for just one person. You can love many people at one time. It doesn’t have to be this person, or that person, especially in friendships.
Loyalty is very important, and very rare to come across these days. Don’t get me wrong, I used to be the worst at being loyal. If I was put in the position of someone talking poorly about one of my friends, I’d probably chime in for the fun of it, but I’d be spewing things I didn’t even think was fair towards that person. I’d cheat on a boyfriend (kissing another guy), true there would be underlying reasons that made me do it, but I just did it because it made me feel better. But I’ve come to learn that it’s very important to say what I think is right, even when the person isn’t there to hear it. I’ve had many opportunities with other guys within the 4 years of this relationship, but I knew I couldn’t do that to him, and didn’t want to. I will always stand up for friends, family, those who can’t stand up for themselves, even if it makes me stick out, I do what I think is right, and that is very important to me.
I will always speak the truth, which causes trouble sometimes, and is sometimes not wanted, but that’s what makes me a valuable person. If I have a different opinion or am going against what you want to hear, I will not just agree with you for your sake. I will be nice about it, but I will always say the truth even if it’s hard. If I have a problem with someone, I’ll say it to their face, and talk it out until we’ve come to an understanding. Some people see that as dramatic, but dealing with the problem until it’s solved was how I was raised. I will not hold it in and be passive aggressive through the internet, and claim it wasn’t about you, like so many people these days do.
Knowing the difference between truth and opinion is very important.
I will always always always want the best for people. Even the people who I don’t respect. Everyone deserves what’s best for them and to be happy.
You are what you do, not what you say.
I love people who are the kind-hearted assholes. Meaning, they have good intentions and they know how to be a funny kind of mean, without crossing the line.
I am so empathetic that people often think I’m two faced, when that’s not true at all. I will hear one side of someones story, and understand, then hear another side, and understand. Just because they’re different or wrong doesn’t mean that I don’t see why the person is that way.
There is no such thing as good friends and bad friends. There are going to be times that your friend will make a mistake, but, you need to forgive them. If they are toxic in your life, just don’t let them in your life any more.
Relationships however, are different. There is such thing as a good boyfriend and bad boyfriend. If they treat you wrong, talk about it, if they don’t fix it, don’t say with them. It’s as simple as that.
If you don’t say what you want you’ll never get it.
Your friends don’t have to be the same as you. I appreciate the differences between my friends and I. We have a dynamic that works together for a reason, and I love it that way.
"What others think of you isn’t any of your business". That’s a hard one for me, because I make tough decisions, rather than the "easy way out", to attempt to be a good person, with morals, so when people think wrongly about me, it really bothers me.
I don’t let people close to me because I don’t trust them. I don’t like hanging out in big groups, because, in my experience that leads to things circling and truths being twisted. I see that people, unconsciously, feel the need to preform or act different around others. That’s why I love hanging out one on one with people, where we can both be ourselves.
Opinion are not truths. This is very important to me, just because someone tells me something about someone else, doesn’t make it true, and I don’t let it define that person. Unless I see it with my own eyes, or have experienced it myself with them.
Anger is a secondary emotion. If someone is mad it’s because one of their basic needs haven’t been met before hand.
I always ask myself, “well why is this person this way”, rather than, no they’re just rude, or controlling, or so on. If you try to understand people, rather than assuming, you’ll love people so much more.
"Losing your soul is an interesting term", I used to not understand it. But my interpretation of it is this. Saying and doing things that go against your beliefs, morals, or values. Most people lose their soul a little bit at a time, so they don’t see that it’s happening until they’re a completely different person. I have been there and done that, not ever to the extent where I was a noticeably terrible person, but I realized that I was not who I said I was, and not who I wanted to be. I did things that I didn’t want to tell people about, and kept it secret, which is when I knew I was doing what was wrong for me. It’s very important to learn to say no to things that aren’t for you, no matter how hard or awkward it may be.
Family, whether it’s the one you were born into, the one you made for yourself, or the ones who are like family to you, is one of the most important things in the world. Fight for it like it is.
On the bright side:
Don’t take things too seriously.
Do things that will make you laugh.
Try new things, go to new places.
Say good things.
Always try to see the good in people.
Traveling and exploring is litereally the best thing to do with your time.
You decide how to live your life.
You’re never too young to do things, no matter what people may tell you, so dream big.
Learn things that you want to learn.
Keep the people around that treat you right, and do the same for them.
Tell people how much they mean to you.
Kindness trumps ego, so if you have to chose, chose kindness.
Know that people may not always be in your life, and things may change, but appreciate them while they are, and be happy that you had that time with them when it’s over.
If you’re living your life only for you and your happiness, you’re doing it wrong. Live for others too.
Respect and accept people’s differences.
Live life with excitement and passion.
Being happy is a state of mind, not a set of circumstances.